Sometimes you have to temporarily lose something in order to know how much you miss it.
Sometimes you have to temporarily lose something in order to know how much you miss it.
It’s Easter Sunday. The breeze is gentle, the sun is soft, the house is quiet.
I had chemo on Tuesday. Had neuprogen injections Wednesday-Saturday. My muscle/bone discomfort started earlier and lasted longer. Now it’s Sunday and the discomfort has ebbed. I am relieved, it’s been hard. I doped myself up and twitched my legs and stretched and walked. It was only five days. But hell’s bells: it was only three days last time! (I am allowed to whine.)
As a result of my treatments, I realize I know nothing about chronic pain. I’ve been one of the lucky ones. I’ve broken a few bones, and I’ve been through a couple of six week recoveries from surgery. But those are one-day-at-a-time-and-soon-you’ll-feel-better jaunts. Oh, and of course, there were two trips of nine months of pregnancy (and post-partum blobbiness). But for that, two babies were there.
An old friend that I hadn’t really seen in a long time (decades, it seemed once we spent an evening together) came by for a visit on Tuesday. She told me that 10 years ago – as a young mother – she was diagnosed with MS. She told me that she chose to put herself through interferon shots every Friday for six years. She said it was like six years of weekly chemo. My God. Read More →
It’s astounding to me that no matter how we change we stay the same.
Was thinking about this Tuesday when I got a box in the mail from my grade school friend Nancy, who sent a handknit afghan shawl, one of those ziggy-zaggy patterned ones in many shades of green.
This thing is dear. It warms my heart. It looks like Nancy. I don’t know if her Mom had something like this in their house down the street on SW 14th Avenue West, but it feels like her. I have it draped over my shoulders right now, cradling me as I watch basketball on our antique big-screen.
When I was 50, my cousin wood-burned a lazy susan for me. She asked me for “the words I believe in” and burned them round the edge: “Sit long, talk much. Claim your truth. Celebrate success, mourn failure. Share your stories. Be big. Hear others.”
Nancy and my cousin both knew me at 7, at 10, at 16, at 21….they’d tell you, I think, that those “rules” have guided me since childhood. As I’m nearing 60, it strikes my fancy that none of these actions made my blog’s “Big Rocks” list. But they were clearly laid down as stones at the foundation of my life.
Chemo Four: What Is Offered
Rounding the corner on the final round (5 is the goal), I faced chemo round four without Dave by my side. Tuesday I got the drip, tonight I’m into twitchy legs and the edge of nausea.
Knowing Dave would be gone, my dear long-time sister-friend Jan flew in from New Mexico last weekend to care for me.
By round four, being “taken care of” is a challenge. I know I have the responsibility to know and to ask for what I want.
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